Sunday, October 11, 2009

"Autiscally Accommodating" Halloween Costumes

Once again, Halloween is here. As a child, I remember the excitement I had in picking out a costume, wearing it to school and out, trick-or-treating. As an adult, the stress of coming up with a "good" costume and going to spooky parties contributed to my dislike for this tradition. It just wasn't me. After my children were born, these memories of my own childhood gave me a new found excitement for the holiday.
My son,born first, generated such excitement in seeing my little guy dressed up in such cuteness. The first year, he was a pea, second year - a greaser, third year - cowboy (no hat), fourth year - caveman, fifth year - Dracula, sixth year - red crayon. I bet you can't guess what the common denominator in all of these costumes is? Aside from the pea costume (as a baby and still unaware of his autism), these costumes have been well thought out, painfully prepared outfits, "autistically accommodating". Here, I thought I was over stressing out about Halloween because of my own road blocks with the holiday. Believe me, there is no greater pressure than that of trying to create the near impossible. But the near impossible is what occurs when my child's self esteem and feeling of acceptance is on the line.
Wondering what "autiscally accommodating" means? To begin with, there are the texture sensitivities my son endures. There cannot be any scratchy material, no tags, and no stiffness. Have you looked at what the stores offer? You got it...scratchy, tags, stiffness. That leaves out all store bought costumes. Next, we cannot choose a costume that has a mask, hat, or head garnish. Are you wondering what else there is? Yes, me too...every year! Finally, after much deliberation, we come up with a costume that satisfies our "prince", but we continue to be on pins and needles until the actual moment he will wear it. Why, you ask? Because my son is a creature of familiarity and routine. The 1 or 2 times, he will actually have to dress up in his costume is filled with anxiety (for all of us). As the date nears, I usually talk incessantly about the costume and even try to have a dress rehearsal (usually unsuccessful).
The day finally arrives and it is up in the air as to whether or not "the costume" will be worn. At this point, I'm pretty much done with this whole holiday and just want to put it behind me and begin next year's search. I put on my best cheerleading face and put forth my best methods of encouragement as the day unfolds. Amazingly enough, every year my son pulls through, rises to this challenge and enjoys himself. I've only lost another year off of my life but at this point, who is counting anymore?

Bring on the lifeguard!